Life’s An Opinion 

“My life is your opinion, Mommy!” – said with conviction by our eldest Turknoy

 
One of the side benefits of traveling with kids is when there are idle time in between transportation schedules like waiting for the next plane schedule to the next city. During these times, open discussions with kids, whether parents are comfortable or not, is unavoidable. 

We were talking about diverse topics such as religion, home education and how people influence one another knowingly or subconsciously. Out of nowhere, she said it.
 
“My life is your opinion, Mommy!”

her opinions are deeprooted to every atoms in her body! 😜 Gheez, Thanks Mommy!

And wow! Never did a statement hit the mark so accurately.
It’s true. In a good, bad, intense and very scary way.
Our kids are living the life based on our opinions. We do not go to church or mosque, we don’t send the kids to school, we make exploring a habit and a lifestyle.

These are our opinions and we live by these. Not a popular choice by majority, non-conventional. Scary choices yet we stand by these opinions.

Just to be so clear – we are not claiming we are right. Nor we want anybody’s approval either. 

The Turknoy parents young age was so patterned with anyone else’s and we formed high opinions about it. We used to religiously go to church or mosque. We went to traditional schools and universities. We used to dream about high paying job with normal working hours and “settling down” to a nice cozy home with a garden.

Yes, we have strong opinions about how we used to live our lives. Our Turknoy kids lives are now based on these opinions.
An immense responsibility we are taking on to ourselves and not on to anybody else.
When Turknoy Mum was young, growing up in the village (it takes a village to raise a child, right?!), the teachers and neighbors would praise how smart she is, and how successful she would be being an accountant (uh, yeah, that specific because during those times, being Certified Public Accountant is synonymous to being successful.) Study hard, graduate from university and get a high paying job.  

There are beautiful girls in the same village who were expected to be marry a rich man because they are “very beautiful.” Some of these beautiful girls turned into beautiful women waiting in vain for that rich men to come to their lives.

Well, Turknoy Mum is lucky she is smart and not that beautiful. She did finish her university and got a good job.

Opinions affect our lives. More than we allow it to. We are what we imagined but most of the times, we listen so much to what other people think should happen in our lives that it becomes our own imagination.

It is really important to hang out with the right people who will give us a good image of what we are capable of doing, of what future we deserve. Well-meaning people are usually parents, right? See, we are qualified to raise our kids based on our opinions! One of the reason we advocate strongly home education.

The other side of our family is not any different. When Turknoy Dad was growing up in his own village, he was raised to the very same ideals. Study hard, graduate from a university, get a job that would pay for his retirement, get married to a loving wife who will take care of him and kids in a very comfortable and clean (oh boy, do they clean their houses!) home.

Luckily, his inclinations to see the world prevailed and he didn’t marry a wife who will take care of his house. He did however, married a wife who can make him rich (not financially) beyond his dreams.

Yes, luckily, we were able to form opinions of our own so we can live out of our parents, our neighbors and society’s opinions.

We can still hear our eldest saying with conviction, “My life is your opinion, Mommy!

This we reply:

“Well, thank you, kids for living your life based on our opinions. For now. We sincerely hope that we are enabling you to make your own opinions and have the courage to live by these.”

Life is too short to live by somebody else’s opinions.

We are all winging how to live our lives. Nobody knows for sure, what is right. And what was right then, could be so wrong now. 

 Our lives, our opinions.

 Your life, your opinion. 

High respect and high five for that!

and she says: My life is my Mother’s opinion! Well, hope Mommy’s opinion is not as ancient as Parthenon!

Set Goals. It’s Necessary! 

I fly because it releases my mind from the tyranny of petty things … – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

 

Set goals! There are no petty things when you know how to make your family happy! 🤗
Do you set goals for your family? As in serious goals written somewhere and not just a hashtag #familygoals or #travelgoals ? Can you state your goals in a sentence or two?

In any business organization, profit or non-profit, the importance of setting the vision and goals are very important. Companies spend thousands of dollars making sure that their vision, mission, goals and objectives are updated and relevant. Turknoy Mum knows this, she spent more than a decade of her career in ensuring an effective system is in place to set the direction of the organization.

A person without goal is a like a kite without string, going to wherever the winds blows, until the kite gets destroyed in God-knows how, where and when.

As much as our family believes in destiny and meant-to-be-happy-ever-after, we believe in setting goals. It keeps the hearts and minds waking up with tons of excitement, not to mention, keeps the hearts and minds focused on what we really want to get out of this life.

The day-to-day living together becomes an agony if we keep doing the same thing over and over  only guided with society’ directions one of which is that is that ” Someday, kids will  finish school and “become successful.”

Successful means achieving goals, can’t really be a success without goals to rate it against, right?

Growing up, both Turknoy parents wanted to be rich. We earned our first thousand dollars successfully before we turned 30, got married, had kids, and kept our management jobs…. And then……… day in, day out.. wait for kids to grow up, keep the day jobs, wait for kids to grow up… And then…. Boredom. In other lives, it could mean drama here and there. How people without goals would welcome drama in their lives  if there is nothing to look forward to! Oh, that happens! 

Human psychology supports this. When the mind is not looking forward to something, it deviates from what is right or appropriate. Fights, affairs, murder, suicide. Okay, a bit exaggerated to get our point across, but that’s how it happens in real life.
 

Settling down with family is not an end point. It is a status. Same as being in a relationship. Or staying “forever” with your one true love.
The sad and pathetic thing is when we consider “settling down with our family” and living our forever with the one we love” our one exclusive goal in life. There is really more to life.
Romantic as it sounds, it really is boring. Setting goals is an ongoing process. There is an end point to goals to determine whether we achieved it or not, but the process needs to be habitual aka “forever.” 
Our family’s goal is to travel. It is our family’s passion. It gives us adrenaline to deal with our day-to-day expat realities of petty and trivial things. It refreshes our mind seeing new things, giving happy sensations whenever we experience new places and meet new people.
Traveling is not the only goal for a family. However, the importance of setting goals should not be underestimated.
Family and setting goals is like life and oxygen.
So, do you have goals for your family? Let us know, in one sentence or two?

Life is a breeze when you have your goals set!

Kids Can Fly Better 

       
Understanding the principles of aerodynamics has nothing to do with the experience of flying. – Northrop Frye

Our Turknoy youngest was almost one-year old when we started flying together as family. We can all vividly and fondly remember the trouble of flying with stroller, baby bags with milk and bottles, changing nappies in the crampy airplane toilet and most loved of all, the crying and loud baby in the mid-flight when all passengers sleeping! Oh gracious! 

We can hear what some of our fellow travelers and even family members think when we started traveling three years ago. It goes like – “These parents are insane, why do they subject these kids and their fellow travelers the agonies of carrying the kids to places to explore (traveling!). The kids won’t even remember these places they painstakingly took them to. Such trouble.” 

Traveling with our little ones is one milestone we will definitely not regret or forget!

Oh, when we look at our now four-year old now! How at home she is at airplane and how she is very insistent to watch the safety flight video and stay at the window seat to look down below when the plane lands or takes off. The extreme joy of watching the clouds when we are 36,000-ft. like all the life’s secret will be revealed to her alone is just too priceless to watch. During long flights, she sleeps like a grownup scrunched in the seat with a smile on her face. Most of time.

Our six-year old son never fails to shriek with so much delight during landing and takeoff. Such loud moments when we take off… “And off we go….. “ he always shout and claps loud whenever we land.

On the other hand, the parents are scared-shit of all the things that could go wrong when we land or take off. Adults know that the most dangerous part of flying are the landing and takeoff. There we are sitting so uptight while our kids are having the momentous joys of their life!

Kids enjoy flights better than adults. They say ignorance is bliss, but we don’t think it’s the ignorance. It’s the enthusiasm to experience and explore something for all the senses, not mainly for the brain and intellect.

That carefree feeling, the abandonment of what should be but what is. Not the moments what kids can remember.

Exploring new places, experiencing new adventures – those are not for the intellect. It is definitely way much more than that. It’s the foundation of our being, the things we will build our future memories on.

Foundations are built to last, built to be strong.

Foundations can also be built while having fun and being happy.

Kids should learn to explore freely. Kids can fly and travel better.

look at our little traveller being silly during a six-hour waiting time at the airport, time flies!

Set goals. Live the Life You Imagined

I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. – Robert H. Schuller

 
Our family can travel and not set goals. That’s actually how it’s usually done. We have 37 working days off for our annual leave not to mention the Region’s holidays. We can plan going on holidays for annually. We don’t have to set goals to traveling to 100 countries and 100 more landmarks for every country we call home – Qatar, Philippines and Turkey.

Dr. Seuss recommends setting goals! ❤️❤️

Yet, we believe that it is very important to define our quest, set our travel goals. If there is something we love more than traveling, it is setting goals.

Setting goals make us allocate our resources to our priorities. To be able to say No to all the good things that come along our way, and say Yes to what we really want in life.

Setting goals make us pick our own quest in life, not the ones dictated to us.

Setting goals is not going with the flow, it is realizing things no matter the flow, or the weather.

It makes our family look forward to a lot of things ahead. Waking up every day and monitoring our goal progress is a form of family bonding for us. The joy in planning, of what is possible, shared with family members, is happiness. It doesn’t have to cost anything at all.

It makes our family imagine all the possibilities. There are a lot!

It makes our family stretch our minds to what we think we are capable of doing. It makes us think highly of our future realities.

It also makes our family think of what we are NOT capable of doing and re- consider our goals every now and then.

Yet we stand firm to what we think we can accomplish. We can fail, yes, that could happen. However, we can also succeed and achieve our goals.

That would be something to be excited for every day.

Set goals. Live the life you imagined. It doesn’t have to be about travel. As long as it’s attempting to do something more than everyday life.

Set goals. Live the life you imagined.

Travel and setting goals. Easy. Important. Lifestyle. 

Live the Life You Always Imagined! Set Goals!

 

One Family’s Logic is Another Family’s Crazy!

A fish cannot drown in water,

bird does not fall in air.

In the fire of creation,

God doesn’t vanish:

The fire brightens.

Each creature God made

must live in its own true nature;

How could I resist my nature,

That lives for oneness with God?

 by Mechthild of Magdeburg  (1207 – 1297)

 
It’s theological. It’s in the Holy Book (insert any religion.) Even obvious. It’s common sense. It’s cliché. Each one of us is unique. We all know this, don’t we?

Every vein of our body is like our fingerprints, whispering to our inner self our true nature, our passion, the reason we are alive. It consumes us whether we allow it or not.

Yet, our society is mass-producing us, submitting us to compliance and if we do not comply with their expectations like school, religion, eight-hour job, retirement funds, marriage, lifestyle, we are going to be labelled “crazy.”

Perceived crazy people used to get burned alive in the witches olden times. Lucky for our Turknoy family, the only fire we will experience is the fire of passion burning in our hearts, mind and entire being. We intend to live out of people’s expectations but chase our unique calling in this life. Together with our Turknoy kids.

When our family first travelled to Europe, we didn’t even tell any other family members both from Turkish side or Filipino side. There are a lot of considerations from both culture, involving financial and emotional acceptance factors mainly.

Turknoy dad just lost his job. It was in the middle of international economic crisis. We just had our third baby and new things brought about by the new family member didn’t even settle just yet.

We just wanted so badly to see what’s out there for our family. Living our family life became so monotonous of talking about living life. We wanted to stop talking and actually live our life.

There will always be reasons, circumstances which will stop us from doing what we love. We had to start somewhere.

We booked our travel, arranged visa requirements and just left to travel to our first family adventure. That simple.

For the three weeks we were seeing new places, our family couldn’t be happier. Laughter so loud we never even thought of possible of hearing from kids, fights we were happy to observe over trivial travel matters, awkward sleeping arrangements and deep, happy, contented slumber!

We were in bliss finding our elements. We were seeing new things. We were chasing our passion.

It does make a lot of sense for us. It doesn’t have to make sense to other families.

Being free from the thought of making society and people, family members included, understand why we do what we do is a huge step to enjoy and work towards our travel goals.

We are all unique. Our Turknoy family intends to travel to different countries and continents while celebrating our uniqueness as individual and as family.

Fish can’t drown in the water, birds does not fall in air. Crazy! 

The family with itchy feet explores the world together !

Keep Calm, Travel and Be Late.

I am late. I am late! For A Very Important Date! – The White Rabbit, Alice in Wonderland


During my first few days as expat, together with my fellow newcomers and future colleagues, we take the bus from the hotel to get to the Head Office. There’s this person, tall, very handsome and kind fellow who is always tardy, always coming to the bus few minutes late. One day, he was left behind by the bus because he was exceeded the 10-minute late waiting period – he was that late! Serves him right, I remember myself thinking. He may be nice, but he has no respect for other people’s time and nobody should be forced to wait for him while he takes his own time.

That day when he was left behind by the bus, going back to the hotel, he had so many stories about the new place where we’re in. He was able to get to know the environment, shops, routes and transportation mode. Seemed like he became famous instantly because he was the most knowledgeable person in our group about the local culture. Because he was late, because he didn’t rush, he opened himself to other experiences destined to happen.

I ended up marrying the guy. That same person is the Turknoy Dad. Yeah, first impression didn’t matter for us, just destiny (and the fact, that he was tall, very handsome and kind, like I emphasized.)

This is the same person who will wait last minute for the final boarding time before actually boarding the plane. The same person who’s name will be called because he is sometimes late, “Mr. Turknoy Dad, you are now requested to please proceed to Gate X. This is your final call.” Great, now everybody at the airport knows who his name, instant fame all over again. He didn’t have to wait at all nor look at the Gate number! See the good pattern here? The airport staff is assisting to make things happen for him , to catch his flight.

This is the same person who will keep still and calm looking at magnificent view for hours, savoring every moment of solitude, who doesn’t need to meditate because he is subconsciously meditating.

This is the same person who will hang out with his wife (me, I am the lucky Turknoy Mum!) for hours and days (prekids time) without checking his phone or getting bored staring at my face, just listening to what I have to say. Gently talking, gently loving me in his calm, awesome ways.

This is the same person who travel with kids patiently waiting for tantrums to end, for wife’s hormones to subside, for certain activities which kids like to do to be completed so that he can proceed with what he does best, exploring very minute of the new place we are in and enjoy!

It does help to be calm and late most of the time. When we stop and take a look at it, life is meant to be savored, not be hurried through.

His calm and non-hurried ways became our family’s way of travel and living. It is natural for Turknoy Dad which he luckily passed on to the children. The go-getter career woman in me is most of the struggling but as our travel goals roll out, I am getting there, one travel at time.

Yes, there are train, plane or bus schedule to catch. But we don’t have to be defined by these timings. There are greater energy in this world that gives pull and push towards our destiny, if only we let it.

look what this dad found while trekking with kids in Nagarkot, Nepal – hemp plantation! 🌱🌿🌴
 

The hurrier I go, the behinder I get! – The same White Rabbit, in the same classic story!

THIS IS IT?!

 
It is better to travel than to arrive. – Buddha

#turknoys #turknoytravels100 #country9 – up and around Mt. Everest, enjoying the view from top, on a plane. For now. “The journey not the arrival matters.” – T. S. Eliot
 

“This is it?!” – This would make the top 5 statements the Turknoy kids say all the time whenever there is a travel landmark or bucketlist we aim to go.

“This is it?!” whispered Turknoys Dad when reached Venice. This is an overrated touristic city. Yet, when the rained poured and the city of Venice overflowed, he was thrilled like a 3-year old while ranting about the cold and wet feet we had.

‘This is it?!” said our eldest daughter, sarcastically, on top of the Burj Khalifa, the tallest building in the world when she just saw brown everywhere and desert view below . Yet, she was shrieking in delight when inside the elevator especially when the floor level reached about 100!

 “This is it?!” shouted our son from the top of the Eiffel top while we are all in awe looking out the gorgeous view of Paris. What a classy and posh city Paris is, yet our five year old was not impressed. Yet, he was ecstatic playing under the Eiffel Tower and amazed with the architecture of the tower while climbing up the tower.

“This is it?!” shouts our youngest curly baby pretty much all the time. Yet her laughter inside the trains, planes, cars, if she is in a good, non-sleepy, non-tired mood, is very priceless mixed with the laughter of all family members.

It’s the travel, the journey. Most of the time. Not the destination. Not the arrival. 

#turknoys #turknoytravels100 #country11 Exploring the Indian Ocean and atolls of Maldives in a sea plane going to Gangehi Island! An awesome experience, seeing whales and dolphins and clear blue ocean deep! “The journey not the arrival matters.” – T. S. Eliot

This is it?! That’s not it! There’s always more to it. All the time. It’s the travel. 

The Camel Story

Look out! Camel Crossing!

One of our favorite story goes:

Not too long ago:

Baby Camel: Mother, may I ask you some questions?

Mother Camel: Sure, my son.

Baby Camel: Why do camels have hump?

Mother Camel: Camels are desert animals. We need the humps to store water and we are known to survive without water for a long time.

Baby Camel: Why are our legs long and feet rounded?

Mother Camel: Obviously, they are meant for walking in the desert better than anyone does.

Baby Camel: Why are our eyelashes long? Sometimes these bother my sight.

Mother Camel: Those long eyelashes are your protective cover. They help protect your eyes from the desert sand and wind.

Baby Camel: The hump is to store water for long days in the desert, our legs and feet to walk in the desert and our eyelashes as protective cover. Mother?

Mother Camel: Yes?

Baby Camel: What are we doing in this zoo?!
 

Moral Lesson of the Story: Skills, knowledge, abilities and experiences are only useful if you are in the right place.

Travel Lesson of the Story: Find the perfect place for your skills, knowledge, abilities and experiences. Travel. A Lot. Get to know all different places in this world. The world is huge to settle for the zoo.

Home Education Lesson of the Story: You can’t really know how to use your skills, abilities and knowledge and gain experiences if you are stuck in the zoo!

Kids look up to their mothers and fathers for the answers. Most of the time, the obvious questions need the obvious answers. Obvious answers need obvious actions.

We home educate our children. We aim to travel. We want to use our capabilities to the fullest. Zoo is so confining. That’s obvious, right?

Camels shouldn’t be in the zoo but in the desert! Free range!!! ❤

The Birds And The Stars

“I’d rather learn from one bird how to sing than to teach ten thousand stars how not to dance.”  – E.E Cummings
 

Have you ever seen someone full of eagerness to learn that they kept on trying and practicing to their heart’s content and when they get to learn the ideas they wanted to comprehend, they shrieked carelessly out of pure delight?

“I got it, Mommy!”

What a remarkable statement that is for a home educating family. When traveling to new countries, that statement with different world scenes as backdrop, where they claim to learn something in an out-of-box method, is beyond an awe-inspiring statement.

Those moments are contagious. We can’t help but feel ecstatic about whatever they are learning, whatever is important for them to learn. The songs they want to sing and how they sing it.

Experienced riding one of the world’s oldest ferris wheel

Insert the image of Archimedes running naked around town, shouting Eureka! Eureka!! He has found the answer!

We don’t really get that passionate inside the four corners of our classrooms, do we?

Traveling and home educating shares the same purpose for our family. Song birds singing in their natural habitats. Finding their songs and unleashing the power of their music. The passion, the bliss of singing under the brilliant stars!

inside the world’s first ever submarine !

Oh, the stars!

The stars mean different things to different people. Shining stars, their brilliance is simply magnificent, twinkling the night away.

“Someday, I want to be a star!” becomes a popular dream for everyone. There are gazillion stars up there trying to outshine each other. It’s a beautiful sky. But as e.e Cummings noted, there are no dancing!

Institutionalized. One word we learned as we embarked on our family goals. One word we started to detest and shield our kids from. Yet one, we can’t run away from. One word we defines as “No unique dancing allowed.”

During our school days, remember those times that we have to excel at examinations to show the administrators, our parents and classmates that we are shining brightly because we are top of the class or we got several awards and medals? Was it really that important?

We have been there. Top of the class, lots of medals. Not really that relevant in the real world.

We’ve also seen students who were bad at math and staying extra hours to study to ace a test over practicing violin or traveling on a summer vacation.

Shine bright, stars. That is what stars are supposed to do, isn’t it?
 
 
Institutionalized. The lazy way to dream, copy the dream and goals defined by the institutions and live the happy, mediocre lifestyle.

There are lots of bright stars but only when the sky is dark. The system is dark.

Our family is part of the system, we can break free for that, but for this period, the system prevails. We can only hope that there will be revolution in the future to free our stars and let the dancing starts!

 
For now, we travel and learn as a lifestyle. There will be “dark” moments. We do what we can.

 
Everytime we have those Eureka, song bird moments from our kids, we are taught again and again, (and again..and so on!).. that anything worth learning can’t be taught. Stars can’t make their own bright lights.
 

The birds, the birds create their own happy songs.
 

Happy singing birds over brilliant stars. Why not? 

 
Happy singing!

turknoys preferred classroom! Awesome white sand beach at Maldives.. did we mention this is a free public beach???

It Takes Courage to Set Goals 

If you are lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it.” – John Irving

Once upon a time, a poor village girl was lucky enough to be able to go to university in the city financially supported at the start of her degree. It was a dream come true for her, it was almost surreal and fear consumed her to live the life in the city. She continued hanging on her old ways being scared of embracing the wealth of experiences ahead of her.

What happened next is kind of expected. She didn’t adapt well in her new city environment, looked down as being the provincial girl, almost failed at a new subject she’s never trained before, alienated the sponsor for her financial aid, and became the almost-dead tiny fish in the big ocean.

She almost died because the skills required swimming in the small pond is way different than swimming in the ocean. It takes lots of courage. Not only deep-breath-take-in-all courage but make-it-happen courage.

She didn’t have the courage but what she feared most of all is going back to that same old pond, where everything is predictable. Fear of leaving the big ocean took over and survival instincts came in huge wave and she kept on swimming ferociously.

Spoiler alert – the girl turned in to a woman who had her dreams come true.

It’s a beautiful world out there, under the deep ocean blue !

And what happens when all dreams came true already and we are living the life we love? What happens when the future is now?

What happens when we are in deep on the ocean and mingling with all the sea creatures and see habitats underneath? And we ran out of oxygen?! Oh boy that is scary!

It takes courage to live the way of life we love. The what-ifs, the expectations, the fear of losing everything.

It takes a lot of courage to live and improve the way of life we love. The fear of failure on totally different level, the fear of much more risks, the fear of embarrassment, of fear of not reaching the full potential.

It takes a lot of new level of courage to set goals improving the way of life we love. The fear of not being content with the way of life.

At the present time, when stepping up and making things happen for me and my family, when we set any goals, especially travel goals, my metaphor goes from the deep ocean to city’s skyscrapers. 

I think skyscrapers when we want to live the way we love and improve it further. Well, I used to think of mountains to conquer, but now, somehow, tall buildings and majestic towers appeal to me more. Maybe because I know, there a lot of things going on inside the buildings that to reach from one floor to another is way more complicated than it seems. For sure, mountain climbers will say the same thing, that going to higher levels require more skills and tools, and that is very true. Not a mountain climber just yet – but it’s on our family bucket list, too! 

 The point is…

Living the life we love and fully embracing the fun of the experiences takes a lot of courage. I think skyscrapers because when you look down at the view, there is a feeling of falling, and that is scary. What if the building collapse? What if a tsunami washed away the building? (This happened.)What if planes crashed into the tower? (This happened, too.) What if we fall? Oh boy, what if we fall? The embarrassment, the shame, the pain of falling!

Swimming in the big ocean or appreciating the view from a skyscraper may require different set of skills to keep going but it does require the same courageous attitude to keep exploring a different territory, of living a way better life than what we have already or even staying put and enjoying the blessings we are already given.

The first act of courage is to accept that we deserve the way we live, good or bad. Thereafter, to act like we belong, to act and make ourselves deserve more than what we have, that’s the next level of courage.

Looking at how we live as an expat family in the region, we realize that we are sacrificing a lot of things like little bit of green environment. Our family life is nowhere perfect where we want it to be. Yet this is how we want to live our life now. This is what we deserve now. We are in our comfort zone now.

Seven years or so, from now, we made a conscious effort to make things different for our family. That took a lot of us, to look beyond what is now, to set goals and while at the same time, enjoying our happy and content now.

To accept that we prefer the brown sand (and dust!) over the green for now, that’s courage. If, in the near future, that we realize that we can’t survive without a little bit of green, it will take a lot of courage on our part to make the changes we are supposed to do. We can almost feel the fear and we are looking forward to it.

For now, the brown sand (and dust!) enables us to enjoy a variety of colors while realizing our travel goals.

It takes courage to set priorities over our desires.

It takes courage to focus on our goals while living the life we have now.

It takes courage to say out loud to the world our goals.

It takes courage to live the life we want.

It takes a lot of courage.

How courageous are you and your family?

Our Turknoy family – mix and match halo halo! Hoping to travel the world together as family!